I appreciate that. There should be a balance.

My mother is a serial spiritual self-help consumer. From my earliest memories, books on how to be your most authentic self, how to align yourself with universal energy, and how to connect with your inner goddess have rested on all household surfaces. Today, she tried to pitch me on the newest spiritual self-help program she’s bought into — one that sounds vaguely frightening and psychologically damaging.

My mother has never admitted that a program didn’t work. She just moved on to become excited by the next one.

She, like many self-help consumers, will never understand that at best, she’s trying out some strange process that happened to work for the particular individual who created it. At worst, she’s spending thousands of dollars that she doesn’t have on people who are frauds and know it.

I think key here, as you alluded to, is that anyone offering advice has an ethical responsibility to be honest about it being just that; advice, not a fix.

And anyone trying for self-improvement needs to take a little more responsibility for their own problem-solving.

Writer and Writing Mentor. Screenwriter. Honest. Human. She/Her. @elancassandra on Instagram, @ElanCDuensing on Twitter. https://linktr.ee/elancassandra

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