This hit me hard.

You're right, it is learned behavior, sometimes which was required early in life. It continues because it becomes both a habit and a part of your identity.

I have found myself thinking, "I wish someone would take care of me."

But. I really have made an effort, particularly since the start of COVID, to take care of (and speak up about) my own needs in addition to those of others.

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