This is absolutely my experience. My mother was very clear about not liking me as much when I somehow disappointed her. It took until adulthood to put into words that her love WAS conditional.

Still, understanding the patterns and knowing why they’re there don’t necessarily keep me from falling into them. I like to think I’m getting better at being true to my own wants and needs, but it’s still very difficult not to put the people I care about first.

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