Unfortunately, as much we might verbally be told differently and even logically know differently, yes, society has completely ingrained this very deep belief. I find that there's a value judgment--I always felt like I had less value in some way when I didn't feel I was attractive.

I would be that for a lot of girls and women, that desire to feel attractive has nothing to do with actually attracting someone. You just want to feel good enough.

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